Comments on: “Just Relax” http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/ news, notes, & tips about spirituality and religion in the workplace Fri, 10 Oct 2008 23:07:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Wian http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3235 Wian Sun, 18 May 2008 20:26:05 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3235 One thing that I find useful and very simple when needing to reduce stress at work is deep breathing. About one minute of deep belly breathing really takes a lot of tension out of your system. I also like to play relaxation videos at http://www.relaxwithnature.com One thing that I find useful and very simple when needing to reduce stress at work is deep breathing. About one minute of deep belly breathing really takes a lot of tension out of your system. I also like to play relaxation videos at http://www.relaxwithnature.com

]]> By: Comrade Kevin http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3199 Comrade Kevin Thu, 15 May 2008 18:42:42 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3199 You have to have a bit of an ego to instruct anyone to do anything, or to adopt a leadership tone. Those who would educate or attempt to do so are all slightly stuck in their own heads or at least stuck in their own grandiose notions of the importance of their own pet theories. That's the reason why I wanted to be a college professor for a while--I was strange, I had a 100% confidence in my own abilities, and I was also quite full of myself. So instructing someone to do much of anything is a risk. I'm a very thin-skinned individual and I prove myself to be a hypocrite every day. You have to have a bit of an ego to instruct anyone to do anything, or to adopt a leadership tone. Those who would educate or attempt to do so are all slightly stuck in their own heads or at least stuck in their own grandiose notions of the importance of their own pet theories. That’s the reason why I wanted to be a college professor for a while–I was strange, I had a 100% confidence in my own abilities, and I was also quite full of myself.

So instructing someone to do much of anything is a risk. I’m a very thin-skinned individual and I prove myself to be a hypocrite every day.

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3196 Ms. Theologian Thu, 15 May 2008 16:11:04 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3196 Oh, Just Calm Down is another of my dreaded phrases that has the opposite effect! It's the worst thing to say to someone who needs to relax and calm down. At least studies demonstrate that now.... Oh, Just Calm Down is another of my dreaded phrases that has the opposite effect! It’s the worst thing to say to someone who needs to relax and calm down. At least studies demonstrate that now….

]]> By: Myfanwy Collins http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3195 Myfanwy Collins Thu, 15 May 2008 11:44:20 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3195 I hate being told to "just relax" (almost as much as I hate being told to "calm down"). I hate being told to “just relax” (almost as much as I hate being told to “calm down”).

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3186 Ms. Theologian Thu, 15 May 2008 00:17:03 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3186 At least if you know that it can cause the opposite effect, you might be less likely to say it. I was really shocked that I wasn't the only person this phrase seemed to cause to tense up. At least if you know that it can cause the opposite effect, you might be less likely to say it. I was really shocked that I wasn’t the only person this phrase seemed to cause to tense up.

]]> By: h sofia http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3185 h sofia Wed, 14 May 2008 23:51:53 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/05/14/just-relax/#comment-3185 I am so guilty of this. I usually deliver this advice in the form of an African proverb I read somewhere, "If there's something you can do about it, why worry? If there's nothing you can do about it, why worry?" Or I try to help the person problem solve. Chaplain training helped me with this a bit, and now I tend to ask questions and listen more than I used to, but that is one tough habit to break! I am so guilty of this. I usually deliver this advice in the form of an African proverb I read somewhere, “If there’s something you can do about it, why worry? If there’s nothing you can do about it, why worry?” Or I try to help the person problem solve. Chaplain training helped me with this a bit, and now I tend to ask questions and listen more than I used to, but that is one tough habit to break!

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