Comments on: Watch Civility Devolve (rather quickly, in fact) http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/ spirituality in the workplace Sat, 22 Nov 2008 17:06:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: GhostGirl http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2866 GhostGirl Wed, 23 Apr 2008 22:14:38 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2866 That editor never ONCE made clear that she was sending a copy there. She just asked if the person used to live there. There seemed to be no response back saying "okay, confirming that I am sending a copy to xxx NJ" and she actually never even said "yes we do provide contributor copies." It was like a bizarre one-sided conversation where half of her responses were in her head and then she got mad because the person didn't hear her. Granted, the contributor was a bit of a douche, too, but I can see where the frustration of a non-responsive response came in. That editor never ONCE made clear that she was sending a copy there. She just asked if the person used to live there. There seemed to be no response back saying “okay, confirming that I am sending a copy to xxx NJ” and she actually never even said “yes we do provide contributor copies.” It was like a bizarre one-sided conversation where half of her responses were in her head and then she got mad because the person didn’t hear her.

Granted, the contributor was a bit of a douche, too, but I can see where the frustration of a non-responsive response came in.

]]> By: Robin Edgar http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2851 Robin Edgar Wed, 23 Apr 2008 17:01:58 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2851 I guess that makes <a href="http://emersonavenger.blogspot.com/2007/01/how-rev-dr-tracey-robinson-harris.html" rel="nofollow">this devolution of correspondence</a> look tame by comparison. ;-) I guess that makes this devolution of correspondence look tame by comparison. ;-)

]]> By: h sofia http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2849 h sofia Wed, 23 Apr 2008 16:17:41 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2849 Sounds like the editor was in a bad mood - One more sentence from her could have cooled this off: something along the lines of, "A copy was sent to NJ; I will resend a copy to your NY address." Responding to a question with another question doesn't leave the asker feeling satisfied. The contributor could have just asked more questions instead of taking to personal attacks. Wow. Just wow. Maybe neither of them is civil in the first place. Sounds like the editor was in a bad mood - One more sentence from her could have cooled this off: something along the lines of, “A copy was sent to NJ; I will resend a copy to your NY address.” Responding to a question with another question doesn’t leave the asker feeling satisfied.

The contributor could have just asked more questions instead of taking to personal attacks. Wow. Just wow. Maybe neither of them is civil in the first place.

]]> By: Chalicechick http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2848 Chalicechick Wed, 23 Apr 2008 15:22:28 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2848 Yeah, the contributer wasn't nice, but damn, that editor sucks. If she'd sent an extra copy of the magazine to the address in New York upon recepit of the first letter, the spat wouldn't have happened at all. Yeah, the contributer wasn’t nice, but damn, that editor sucks. If she’d sent an extra copy of the magazine to the address in New York upon recepit of the first letter, the spat wouldn’t have happened at all.

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2847 Ms. Theologian Wed, 23 Apr 2008 15:19:23 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2847 I have only rejection letters from Fence, and I'm tempted not to submit again. When I worked on a literary journal, I tried to avoid pissing matches of this nature...just restate that the copy was sent to NJ. Period. I don't think anyone can win.... I have only rejection letters from Fence, and I’m tempted not to submit again. When I worked on a literary journal, I tried to avoid pissing matches of this nature…just restate that the copy was sent to NJ. Period. I don’t think anyone can win….

]]> By: Scott Wells http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2846 Scott Wells Wed, 23 Apr 2008 15:10:36 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/04/23/watch-civility-devolve-rather-quickly-in-fact/#comment-2846 I'm left with a poor impression of Fence and its editor by trying to make hay of this nasty spat. Doubt that was her intent. I’m left with a poor impression of Fence and its editor by trying to make hay of this nasty spat. Doubt that was her intent.

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