Comments on: Tips for Hiding Your Office Romance http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/ spirituality in the workplace Sat, 22 Nov 2008 02:02:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Mile High Pixie http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1817 Mile High Pixie Fri, 15 Feb 2008 02:18:43 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1817 My husband and I worked together for 6.5 years and were a couple the whole time (officially married for about 2 yrs of the 6.5). We were very on the DL for the first 6 months, but even after a few people picked up on the fact that we were dating, we still didn't eat lunch together, didn't linger around each other and talk just to chat, and we didn't make it public per se. However, if someone asked about it, we didn't deny anything. When we got married, we eloped in Vegas and didn't announce it in the office, but we didn't deny it either when people asked. Our office didn't have a policy about interoffice dating (my boss met his second wife there when she was a receptionist), but we mostly didn't want to undermine our own professional credibility by making googly-eyes at each other. Because of our behavior, we remained two professional, more-than-competent architects who just happened to be married--we were defined by our performance, not our personal lives. Which is how it should be in an office. My husband and I worked together for 6.5 years and were a couple the whole time (officially married for about 2 yrs of the 6.5). We were very on the DL for the first 6 months, but even after a few people picked up on the fact that we were dating, we still didn’t eat lunch together, didn’t linger around each other and talk just to chat, and we didn’t make it public per se. However, if someone asked about it, we didn’t deny anything. When we got married, we eloped in Vegas and didn’t announce it in the office, but we didn’t deny it either when people asked. Our office didn’t have a policy about interoffice dating (my boss met his second wife there when she was a receptionist), but we mostly didn’t want to undermine our own professional credibility by making googly-eyes at each other. Because of our behavior, we remained two professional, more-than-competent architects who just happened to be married–we were defined by our performance, not our personal lives. Which is how it should be in an office.

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1815 Ms. Theologian Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:32:31 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1815 That's pretty funny. It's my experience too that most people can sense a romance from 20 feet away regardless of how much people think they are hiding their relationship. That’s pretty funny. It’s my experience too that most people can sense a romance from 20 feet away regardless of how much people think they are hiding their relationship.

]]> By: h sofia http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1814 h sofia Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:24:57 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1814 If either party is married or otherwise in long term relationships with *other* people, keeping things on the DL (down-low) might be important. In my experience, though, people know. Maybe not the spouses/sig-os, but the coworkers. My mom has a funny story about a former manager in her office who was carrying on an affair with another manager. Both were married to other people. He would go into her office for a "meeting" at which point they would close the blinds and remain in there for 2 to 3 hours. Then, he'd come out and announce to everyone that he was going "to lunch." Five minutes later she'd emerge with coat in hand, saying "I have an important appointment!" Everyone just thought it was ridiculous. Especially given that these people were in their 50s. If either party is married or otherwise in long term relationships with *other* people, keeping things on the DL (down-low) might be important. In my experience, though, people know. Maybe not the spouses/sig-os, but the coworkers.

My mom has a funny story about a former manager in her office who was carrying on an affair with another manager. Both were married to other people. He would go into her office for a “meeting” at which point they would close the blinds and remain in there for 2 to 3 hours. Then, he’d come out and announce to everyone that he was going “to lunch.” Five minutes later she’d emerge with coat in hand, saying “I have an important appointment!”

Everyone just thought it was ridiculous. Especially given that these people were in their 50s.

]]> By: Ms. Theologian http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1804 Ms. Theologian Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:36:49 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1804 Quite appropriate. :) Quite appropriate. :)

]]> By: Lizard Eater http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1802 Lizard Eater Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:17:10 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/02/14/tips-for-hiding-your-office-romance/#comment-1802 Don't sigh and gaze at me Your sighs are so like mine Your eyes mustn't glow like mine People will say we're in love ... Don’t sigh and gaze at me
Your sighs are so like mine
Your eyes mustn’t glow like mine
People will say we’re in love …

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