Comments on: Surviving a Miscarriage http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/ spirituality in the workplace Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:10:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Samantha http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-5863 Samantha Wed, 08 Oct 2008 02:55:15 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-5863 I'm sorry. That is all I want to hear from people. But instead, I am bombarded by 'oh you'll have another', 'just keep trying', 'at least you weren't further along', 'it wasn't meant to be'. But I just want you to say sorry and ask me how I am. A d&c is painful and the emotions it reveals are worse. I think they give you painkillers for the emotional pain more than the physical. I'm sorry for your loss. I’m sorry. That is all I want to hear from people. But instead, I am bombarded by ‘oh you’ll have another’, ‘just keep trying’, ‘at least you weren’t further along’, ‘it wasn’t meant to be’. But I just want you to say sorry and ask me how I am. A d&c is painful and the emotions it reveals are worse. I think they give you painkillers for the emotional pain more than the physical. I’m sorry for your loss.

]]> By: Christine http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-5828 Christine Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:02:16 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-5828 Ms. T, thank you for sharing...I am commenting from Kenya here in Africa. On September 2nd, at 6 weeks, it started with a bleeding and after the ultrasound despite going in with high hopes, the doctor across the table delivered the bad news..the baby was dead. It didn't sink in until an hour later. The pain was unbearable and the amount of crying was definitely not going to bring my baby back. The next day I had the D&C and that afternoon I was back at work, doing my best to move on...and I have..I am looking forward to being pregnant again.... I pray for Gods grace to carry it term and if not I pray for his grace to handle it...Because in the toughest of days God has always seen me through. I am not scared of trying again and again...............I will pray for you as I pray for my own that God will grant us the blessing to carry our own in our arms some day. Ms. T, thank you for sharing…I am commenting from Kenya here in Africa. On September 2nd, at 6 weeks, it started with a bleeding and after the ultrasound despite going in with high hopes, the doctor across the table delivered the bad news..the baby was dead. It didn’t sink in until an hour later. The pain was unbearable and the amount of crying was definitely not going to bring my baby back. The next day I had the D&C and that afternoon I was back at work, doing my best to move on…and I have..I am looking forward to being pregnant again…. I pray for Gods grace to carry it term and if not I pray for his grace to handle it…Because in the toughest of days God has always seen me through.
I am not scared of trying again and again……………I will pray for you as I pray for my own that God will grant us the blessing to carry our own in our arms some day.

]]> By: bells http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-4727 bells Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:22:32 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-4727 I am about to undergo my second miscarriage (of an IVF baby) after finding no heartbeat yesterday. This was helpful for me. Thank you. I am about to undergo my second miscarriage (of an IVF baby) after finding no heartbeat yesterday. This was helpful for me. Thank you.

]]> By: Sharon http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-2349 Sharon Thu, 20 Mar 2008 14:35:38 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-2349 I suffered a miscarriage in September 2007, I was 4 months pregnant on the day that I miscarried. My baby was such a beautiful little angel and although the daily crying has stopped, I still can't bring myself to go to friends' babies birthdays or baby showers. I have my good days and bad days and I still do get days where the pain feels as if it has only just happened. My baby wasn't planned and I wasn't sure how to feel in my first month of pregnancy, but started to bond with my baby - I'd talk to him, tell him what was going on in the outside world and just wanted him to know how much I loved him. I've been considering going for counselling to help me heal, if that's possible at all. It feels as if no one understands the pain I feel, I constantly get comments like, "life goes on" or "at least he wasn't born yet". It's the most painful thing I've ever been through and would never wish it on my worst enemy.. I suffered a miscarriage in September 2007, I was 4 months pregnant on the day that I miscarried. My baby was such a beautiful little angel and although the daily crying has stopped, I still can’t bring myself to go to friends’ babies birthdays or baby showers. I have my good days and bad days and I still do get days where the pain feels as if it has only just happened. My baby wasn’t planned and I wasn’t sure how to feel in my first month of pregnancy, but started to bond with my baby - I’d talk to him, tell him what was going on in the outside world and just wanted him to know how much I loved him. I’ve been considering going for counselling to help me heal, if that’s possible at all. It feels as if no one understands the pain I feel, I constantly get comments like, “life goes on” or “at least he wasn’t born yet”. It’s the most painful thing I’ve ever been through and would never wish it on my worst enemy..

]]> By: Jess http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1632 Jess Thu, 31 Jan 2008 23:39:12 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1632 Thank you for writing this... my husband and I have endured 2 miscarriages. No children yet, and somedays the jealousy and unbelievable sadness over what never can be is there. I miss our children, though I've never met them. It can't be explained. But it hurts deeply. Thank you for writing this… my husband and I have endured 2 miscarriages. No children yet, and somedays the jealousy and unbelievable sadness over what never can be is there. I miss our children, though I’ve never met them. It can’t be explained. But it hurts deeply.

]]> By: Katrina Denza http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1375 Katrina Denza Tue, 15 Jan 2008 16:41:34 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1375 I'm so sorry, my friend. Thank you for your post. I’m so sorry, my friend. Thank you for your post.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1347 Elizabeth Sun, 13 Jan 2008 21:33:32 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1347 I don't think anything I can say will help, but as an avid reader of this blog and admirer of S.A./Ms.T. I just wanted to say that you and Jim are in my thoughts. I wish there was a way to heal pain for others, but I guess all we can really do is be there. Say it's okay however you need to handle this. And just be. Thanks for being willing to share. Hugs hugs, Elizabeth Totally unrelated side note: A good friend has started a new job and I've recently had a challenging professional situation and at least once a week I have to stop myself from being like, "I'll email Surviving the Workday and see what she has to say about this!" If I were you, I'd consider a business of $5 (via pay pal) advice on work situations for short, easy problems, and $10-$20 for more complex ones. I think you could make some money. Not that that is the main goal of this blog/ministry, but, hey, it could work...... I don’t think anything I can say will help, but as an avid reader of this blog and admirer of S.A./Ms.T. I just wanted to say that you and Jim are in my thoughts. I wish there was a way to heal pain for others, but I guess all we can really do is be there. Say it’s okay however you need to handle this. And just be. Thanks for being willing to share. Hugs hugs, Elizabeth

Totally unrelated side note: A good friend has started a new job and I’ve recently had a challenging professional situation and at least once a week I have to stop myself from being like, “I’ll email Surviving the Workday and see what she has to say about this!” If I were you, I’d consider a business of $5 (via pay pal) advice on work situations for short, easy problems, and $10-$20 for more complex ones. I think you could make some money. Not that that is the main goal of this blog/ministry, but, hey, it could work……

]]> By: Melanie http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1339 Melanie Sun, 13 Jan 2008 06:37:10 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1339 I wish I would have ran across a post like this a year ago, when I had my first miscarriage. I have had three more since that one. With each miscarriage, the desire to be pregnant increased. I got depressed each month that it didn't work and eventually went on medication. Yesterday we found out that we are pregnant again. I am praying this one will stick. I can't go through that again. Thank you for being a voice and speaking out. I wish I would have ran across a post like this a year ago, when I had my first miscarriage. I have had three more since that one. With each miscarriage, the desire to be pregnant increased. I got depressed each month that it didn’t work and eventually went on medication. Yesterday we found out that we are pregnant again. I am praying this one will stick. I can’t go through that again.

Thank you for being a voice and speaking out.

]]> By: Unitarian Universalists Writing about Miscarriage, Solitude http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1317 Unitarian Universalists Writing about Miscarriage, Solitude Sat, 12 Jan 2008 06:34:49 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1317 [...] Theologian wrote bravely about surviving two miscarriages, sharing with readers the grief, jealousy (of friends with children), and hopelessness she has [...] […] Theologian wrote bravely about surviving two miscarriages, sharing with readers the grief, jealousy (of friends with children), and hopelessness she has […]

]]> By: Terri http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1316 Terri Sat, 12 Jan 2008 00:24:37 +0000 http://survivingtheworkday.com/2008/01/10/surviving-a-miscarriage/#comment-1316 Thank you for your very powerful and honest words. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for your very powerful and honest words. My heart goes out to you.

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