Often I find that when I’m angry, I’m so emotional that I seem like a little kid flailing her arms around, just in hopes of hurting something, anything. Between the tears and the arm flapping, it’s not very effective.

But, occasionally, I really manage to direct my anger in such a way as to get exactly what I want. That happened yesterday. I used exactly the right words. And I got exactly what I wanted. And it floored me by how powerful I was (and professional, I might add).

I’m not clear on how exactly I manage to shift from ineffective anger to effective anger, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about quite a bit and I’m interested in hearing other thoughts on the matter.

This particular issue had to do with protecting myself, my family, and the people in the neighborhood. I can’t actually say anything more than that. But I was acting not only on my own behalf. I think that may have helped me create a powerful response.

From Self-Therapy Thoughts on Anger:

Anger = Energy = Power

When we are angry we are feeling raw energy that is ready for use. This is our power.

The only real decision we have to make is: “How will I use all this power?”

Your anger is like a laser beam. Aim it precisely where it will do you the most good.