Ms. Theologian responds to blessings (not given to her, mind you).
Sunday December 04th 2005, 12:10 pm
Filed under: letters

Dear Ms. Theologian:In conversation, when talking about other people (especially when pointing out a foible or, conversely, pointing out a good quality), I often say their name and quickly follow it with “God bless ‘em”.

Now, even though I say it partially in jest, I earnestly mean the blessing. Do you think it counts in their favor or is it passed up as lip service? Just curious.

–Curious

Dear Curious:

Ms. Theologian is of two minds regarding this question.

Mind #1: This part of Ms. Theologian’s mind is not very mature, yet it appreciates irony. The irony is that although you say, “God Bless, Hildegarde,” you may follow it up with a criticism. And that’s amusing to Ms. Theologian.

Mind #2: This is part of Ms. Theologian’s mind that is slightly more mature and less irony-appreciating. She thinks that if you really want to bestow a blessing, say something positive about your coworker and leave out the criticism.

Bless you,

–Ms. Theologian